It was hate at first sight

July 22, 2013 |  by  |  Linkedin Blog

The wrinkled jacket, stained shirt and ankle length trousers put me on high alert, but couldn’t prepare me for what came next.

A handshake which carried the greasy and rather sticky residue of his lunch.

Socks Sandals

To make matters worse his delusions of adequacy were only interrupted when pausing for bad breath.

You know the type: a perfect example of a charisma by pass, where you can’t get a word in edgeways, and can’t get away quick enough. A colloidal carbuncle that manifests itself on the backside of humanity…..a complete pain in the ar5e.

It was hate at first sight.

OK, rant over.

Notwithstanding matters of personal hygiene and sartorial elegance, here are my 10 Commandments of Charismatic people.

Charismatic people,

1. Are grateful for your time and attention
2. Focus on you and not themselves
3. Ask engaging questions
4. Actively listen – guys, when it comes to your better half, apparently nodding your head feigning interest isn’t enough! She needs to have the experience of being listened to and feel that she’s been heard.
5. Are helpful
6. Like to have fun
7. Are positive
8. Don’t take themselves too seriously
9. Are open to new ideas
10. Are honest

If you’ve got a great attitude towards other people, then they’ll want to hear what you have to say and spend time with you.

A bad attitude on the other hand is like bad breath: if you have one, people will avoid you and they probably won’t tell you why.


1. A spouse is someone who’ll stand by you through all the trouble you wouldn’t have had if you’d stayed single.
2. A man walked into his crowded local bar, waving a revolver around and shouting, “Who in here has been sleeping my wife?”A voice from the back of the bar shouted back, “You’re going to need more bullets.”
3. A blonde heard that bathing in milk would make her beautiful.

She left a note for her milkman to leave 25 gallons of milk.

When the milkman read the note, he felt there must be a mistake.

He thought she probably meant 2.5 gallons. So he knocked on the door to confirm her order. The blonde came to the door and the milkman said, “I found your note asking me to leave 25 gallons of milk. Did you mean 2.5 gallons?”

The blonde said, “No, I want 25 gallons.

I’m going to fill my bath with milk and take a milk bath so I can look young and beautiful again.”

“OK,” the milkman asked, “Just one more thing. Do you want it pasteurized?”

The blonde said, “No, just up to my boobs will do. I can splash it on my eyes.”

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Thank you.

Sunil Bali

As well as being a recognised authority on personal branding and peak performance, Sunil is a critically acclaimed author and blogger. His corporate experience includes roles as Head of Talent on behalf of Vodafone Group, Santander (UK) and Cable & Wireless Europe. Sunil has also run a multi-million pound recruitment business, and is a Non Executive Director. Sunil’s first degree in Sports Science and Psychology fuelled his passion for the psychology of human achievement and well-being. As well as possessing an MBA, he is a qualified Psychotherapist and Executive Coach.

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