Adults, unlike children, are rarely 100% in the moment.
Ask a child to draw and the child will gleefully put pencil to paper and enjoy the experience.
Research by organizational psychologist Dr. Alicia Grandey, has found that putting on an emotional mask at work – conforming to a certain image or label that doesn’t correspond to who you are – drains you of energy that can only be replenished if you then have an opportunity to be yourself.
“You have to be real,” Grandey says, “because thought suppression, or trying to stifle your natural behaviour in favour of conforming to a stereotype, results in mental strain.”
A woman goes to the opticians and returns a pair of spectacles.
“They’re my husbands,” she says. “He’s still not seeing things my way.”
Of course, it’s great when people see things our way, but if they don’t, SUMO: shut up and move on.
One of the fundamentals of Zen is that “All things exist to express what they are.”
So your soul’s deepest desire is to experience life authentically as who you really are.
If you don’t live your truth and do what makes you happy, then you get truth ache.
This ache is a sign that you need to do more of what you love.
There has been a lot of nonsense spoken in the last two weeks about athletes being in the zone at the Olympics.
The truth is that we’re born in the zone.
The human body will self-correct at every opportunity:
- if we’re too hot we sweat
if we’re too cold we shiver
if we drink too much fluid our kidneys excrete it
if eat too much sugar we produce more insulin
Research by Professor William Duggan shows that the human brain has the same self-correcting mechanism, and given time and space will provide clarity and solutions for problems that leave everyday rationality flummoxed. When at its most creative the human brain produces a high level of alpha waves.
Duggan found that worrying blocks the production of alpha waves in the brain which produces beta waves instead, which are associated with stress, introspection and negative thought patterns.
One way to maximize creativity and the production of alpha waves is to beditate.
When you wake up in the morning, instead of running the same old mental patterns about the day ahead, just stop for a few moments, relax and dump your should’s, would’s and could’s. Or as my friend Laurence Shorter says in his excellent book, The Lazy Guru’s Guide to Life, “Stop, tune in, and let go.”
And do the same just before you go to bed ….. stop and sync.
It’s amazing how much work you can get done when you’re asleep or simply not thinking.
- What do you get from a forgetful cow?
Milk of Amnesia.
- My friend David had his ID stolen yesterday.
We now call him Dav.
- A chap on a tractor just drove past me shouting
“The end of the world is nigh!!!”
I think it was Farmer Geddon.
Live big & love deep.
When an Austrian toothpaste salesman named Dietrich arrived in Thailand suffering from jet lag, a hotelier recommended a can of the local pick me up, Krating Daeng.
So impressed was Dietrich that whilst he was still in Thailand, he did a deal to market a less sweet, carbonated version of the drink in Europe.
Every piece of market research and testing however, suggested that the drink would flop. Click here to read more…
Just as the giant cruise ship was about to depart, fully laden with passengers, the engine failed.
Panic quickly ensued as various teams of engineers failed to restart the engine and the passengers became ever more irate.
A retired ship engineer who lived locally was summoned.
He embarked with his small bag of tools and inspected the engine very carefully. Having completed his inspection, he reached into his bag and pulled out a hammer and gently tapped something.
Instantly, the engine lurched into life. It was fixed.
A week later the owners received a bill from the old man of $10000.
“What?!” the owners exclaimed. “He hardly did anything.” The owners wrote to the old man and asked him to submit an itemized invoice which he duly did:
The invoice read:
Tapping with a hammer…….. $2.00
Knowing where to tap…….. $9998.00
My neighbours son bought tickets to the Ireland v Belgium football match in Bordeaux on June 18th.
The problem is that it clashes with his wedding day….. He applied for tickets, but didn’t expect to get them. He then forgot about it, but lo and behold, the tickets arrived yesterday.
I know this is short notice, but he’s asked if you know of anyone who would be interested in getting married in a fortnight?
Live big & love deep.
Professor of Psychology, Ed Diener, says that “The aim of life is to die young as late as possible.”
Here are a few tips on how to do just that:
- If you take a £20 note, crumple it up, throw it on the floor, and tread on it a few times, it may be a little dirty and the worst for wear, but it hasn’t lost any of its value. The same is true of you. Remember, what happens to you doesn’t change your value.
- Whatever life you have in you, express it. If you have the urge to bake cakes, do stand up comedy, or run a marathon ….. overcome the inertia and do it. The act of expression increases present moment awareness, flow, and therefore happiness.
- Take a risk, change your routine and do something which makes your soul soar. Sleep replenishes a tired mind and body, but sleep doesn’t help if its your soul that’s tired.
- Make sure that everyday you love someone, believe in something and hope for something. When you’re crystal clear on your why the how tends to show up.
- Get outside and get lost in nature because this is our true nature. In evolutionary terms, it wasn’t that long ago that we lived in caves. Humans have become too domesticated and were born to be wild. There maybe no wifi in the forest, but you will find a better connection.
Anarchy in the SMS
An old man was driving his car down a one-way street when a policeman stopped him and said, “Didn’t you see the arrows?” “Arrows?” replied the old man, “I didn’t even see the Indians.”
Two friends were in the wine section at their local supermarket and one said to the other, “How much do you normally spend on a bottle of wine?”
“About an hour,” the friend replied.
Live big & love deep.
Last week the comedian and actor Peter Kay received two BAFTA’s for his glorious TV series Car Share.
Kay also holds the world record for the most successful comedy tour of all time. His 113 date 2010 -11 stand up tour played to over 1.2 million people.
When it finished, Kay said that he had felt sick with nerves each and every one of the 113 nights.
Steve Jobs famously mocked his design team if he ever felt that they were holding back their creativity, for fear of having their work rejected and being criticised.
Jobs said that his vision and making a dent in the universe mattered more to him than his ego being stroked and fitting in.
Jobs had the courage to speak his truth and be himself at all times and at all costs.
Whilst from completely different backgrounds and with completely different roles, Steve Jobs and Peter Kay have a common talent.
They, like many of life’s great achievers, are acutely comfortable in their own skin and don’t go through life with their emotional handbrake on.
Whatever your stage, are you ready to step onto it?
Did you hear about the French chef who killed himself?
He lost his huile d’olive.
Peter Kay with his hilarious misheard song lyrics (6 min. video)
Live big & love deep.
Do you remember being read a story when you were young or reading one to your children? Children become totally transfixed when you tell them a great story.
You maybe a little older, your hair may have changed colour or got a little thinner, your waistline expanded, but we adults still love great stories.
Tell me a fact and I’ll learn
Tell me the truth and I’ll believe
Tell me a story and it will live in my heart forever.
“Sometimes you have to play a long time to be able to play like yourself,” said jazz legend Miles Davis.
Given that he won 49 trophies during his time as manager of Manchester United, one could be forgiven for being surprised when Sir Alex Ferguson CBE stated that he only had 4 truly world class players during his 26 year tenure.
Namely, Cantona, Giggs, Scholes and Ronaldo.
So how, the interviewer then asked, did he manage to be so successful with a less than world-class team.
“Clarity, belief and execution,” replied Sir Alex. “Everyone knew what they had to do, why they were doing it and believed that they could do it. They then went out and did it. It’s no good planning and preparing to win, if you don’t also expect to win.”
“I think the CBE I received from the Queen was for my Clarity, Belief and Execution. Once you’ve got these three things, you can make the most of your talent.”
“But how did your maintain the belief of the team when you got beaten?” asked the interviewer.
With a twinkle in his eye Sir Alex replied, “We may occasionally have run out of time, but we never believed that we could be beaten.”
The man who invented autocorrect has died. Restaurant In Piece.
What do you call a Frenchman in sandals? Phillipe Phillope
Dumb and dumber are on a cruise ship.
Dumb says to Dumber, “Its very quiet on deck today.”
“Everyone must have gone to see the band,” said Dumber.
“But there isn’t a band playing tonight,” says Dumb.
“I’m sure I heard someone say a band on ship,” replies Dumber.
Live big & love deep.
There’s a cartoon in the New Yorker magazine where a boss behind a big desk tells a hapless subordinate, “The important thing, Smithers, is not that we understand one another, it’s that you understand me!”
If you’ve worked in cubicle nation long enough, the chances are that you’ve come across such a charisma bypass of a manager.
As we grow up, society and advertising condition us to feel insecure about our weight, the way we look, our social status, sex appeal …… the list goes on.
We become convinced that we need to be fixed or improved. But we’re told it’s not your fault because there are millions of people with the same faults as you. You’re part of a much bigger problem and if you listen to the advice in the self-help products you’ll feel great.
Alas, after a quick self-help high we come down to earth with a bump, and in 99.99% of cases go back to feeling in some way inadequate and keep contributing to the global spend of over $20billion dollars a year on self-improvement books, CD’s and seminars.